How do other countries learn foreign languages? (In school)

Do you learn them simply just to have basic general conversations? Or do you actually learn the rules of the language and speech?

Do you go in depth into languages?

What is the requirement for learning foreign languages in other countries??

Kids think you simply learn basic conversational language just for convo??

I say you learn and know more??? I think is more in depth? They say I am wrong??

Am I wrong???

Tonight I had a convo with my landlords sister.

Ya know, they are really important to me. They just came into my life and have been … hmm… they kinda became family…

I found them at that moment right after that surgery, and after I had lost all my family… I just found them…

I’ve gone into the story before … but tonight when talking to her sister about stuff…

She asked me how lawyers went, and I told her… she was happy and made a comment “good, let him answer to the courts now! You never deserved that”

I agree… however… there is something on my mind with that… cause she said I never should have had to go through that… which is true – it never should have happened.. that system is broken…

BUT… if I didn’t go through those things exactly the way that they happened… I would not have found them ❤️❤️❤️ I would not have them in my life …

Sometimes I just think there are things that are meant to be?

I had to suffer through many things but that brought these amazing ladies in my life ❤️

I can not imagine life without them?? Just cause they really are like family?

They are supportive, and kind, they always have checked on me, made sure I was ok, always asked if I need anything, always are just really kind ❤️ they really kinda just adopted me ❤️ they kept me safe and gave me peace ❤️

I had lost all my family and was devastated with that, and had the cancer – I was devastated there too… and the ex was brutal beyond what you could think… so to have found them… just in those moments and how they just fit into my life like family – almost like they put there – like was meant to be?

I was quiet at first… I just needed that peace. They didn’t know I just had surgery, and they didn’t know about ALL of the deaths I had (they knew about my dad only) and they didn’t know about my ex… they didn’t know any of it – and I was silent.

They gave me time to settle in, and then they would check on me to see if I needed anything, or to see if I was doing ok.

They would make me laugh, and then they were friendly so I just kinda started letting down my guard… and then over time they learn my story and “me”… and I learned “them” ❤️

They helped my strength come back ❤️

When I first met my landlord… she also went through breast cancer and she had lost a husband the same year I lost my dad… so instantly I kinda connected with her… and she’s so friendly…

Her sister is a little shy’er … but the sweetest most gentle soul you would ever meet ❤️ she’s funny ❤️

I have loved being out here with them ❤️ they are a blessing to me!

I would like to have NOT had to suffer through so much… that was devastating and excruciating…

But if I had not… I would never have met such amazing women ❤️

And I learned lessons along the way too… so that is also good. I needed lessons 🤨 … even though I don’t like lessons lol ✌️😄

But yeah… so when we were talking and she said that…

I said … if I didn’t go through all that, I wouldn’t have you in my life – so in a way, I am very thankful life brought you both to me ❤️

Yeah so… just ya know am glad to have them ❤️

…they are just amazing … ❤️

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So shit is hitting the fan. 😮

I was supposed to work at one place… but my boss call me today and tell me be at another … I say ok but you only have me til 3… said gonna send an attendant so alright… I’m out at 3.

We see – I half don’t trust. Is popping off tmrw with services and obviously we have zero staff

Of course it’s the furthest

I’ll just shut it down if they not there.

And then “just now” the place I was gonna be text and say what time you be here ??? They evidentially did not have communication!!!

I said I’m being sent somewhere else…

So I know that’s gonna be HUGE issue… do you see how stressful??? There is a gazillion things going on and no staff – shame on corporation heads!!!

They tell us to deal with it… they gonna be the ones dealing with a lot more soon.

Tmrw will suck! Thank god it’s Friday… see the stress level with the bullshit – I don’t like that! It just went zero to 60!!

It’s falling apart… and deaths ya know omg … you can not fall apart with this!!!

All these corporate heads have no idea what they doing!! They gonna lose control shortly – it’s gonna just blow up! Do they even know what time it is??? Wake the hell up!!

Yeah … I can’t stay in this, like this. I’m not even an arranger and I’m highly stressed by it!!

That’s literally “death” stress level!! Like literally! … both for the rising blood pressure for the living and then IS death work… so all around is death stress level!!!

Ok just talk to arranger who say I am there instead … boss has not informed me yet???

Omg so now I have to be in 2 places at once … no wonder everyone thinks I look fricken familiar – I’m all over the fricken place!!!

Ok… I’m at the middle place tmrw ??

I’m telling you … the deaths are pouring in and the craziness and lack of staff is too much!!!

My doctor would kill me himself if he knew the level of stress.. crap ☹️😔

Ok fine… life warned me… kept saying get out of death – get away … I didn’t

I kinda drag my feet hoping will be ok… and it isn’t – gets worse

I have to learn to jump ship when shit sucks lol dammit – I don’t like thinking like that!!! I always think, if I stick with it – it be ok? I have to learn how to know when to leave 😮 I kinda suck at that.

I’m working on it… just handled all the new car stuff – I might just do that pick and pull and be done with the other car ….

I love you my little Toyota ❤️ but I got too much going on!!! Wtf life!!

Jobs – next focus!!! Hard core focus – get the hell out of death!!! Is not gonna get any better – only worse!!!

I am not a morbid person… not at all… but seeing as it is Halloween 🎃… and my job is killing me… I’m a little fed up with death!! …

Let’s go with this… cause it’s gonna kill me that way!

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My head spins a little with how crazy and fluid it is 😔

I feel bad a little that I can’t do it 😔 I do love the job… just it’s over my head now 💔💔💔 and it’s gonna get worse and worse

Wrong profession right now!!!

Ok… woo hoo!!! Passed smog no problems ❤️❤️❤️ nice and smooth 👌❤️

Small odd thing lately… 😳

Ok… well the other day… some woman thought she knew me?? Remember that?

No… she did not?? I didn’t think anything of it… My face is half covered so ya know… they just don’t know … same thing happened other day at funeral home too?? So whatever just a coincidence

So… today I go to the Smog place … I go in – sign up, was like 20 minute wait… blah blah blah – no big deal … I knew would take time

So… I am just wearing that full face mask… so actually you can clearly see my face under the shield this time. Whatever … I just like breathing lol ✌️ (I love that face shield ❤️ fricken rocks!) I still love the masks too… I love those for the mystery… but I love the shield for the breathing 😄✌️

I feel kinda naked with the shield cause you can see my face lol… funny how that is now

Anyway… they are being REALLY nice to me… ok whatever that’s cool 😊❤️ I like niceness ✌️

So the car guy (not my normal car guy… this is a smog station) the guy takes my car and pulls it inside and hooks it up and starts all the tests…

I don’t really say much, I was standing outside just waiting.

Was a totally beautiful day today… perfect temperature, sun was shining ❤️❤️ so beautiful!!! …

So he finishes my car, says my name… smiles at me and gives me thumbs up 👍… cause I fricken passed – wooo hooo!!!

That’s electronically submitted to the DMV (Department of Motor Vehicles) – that’s what they call it over here in California

Back in Massachusetts they call it REGISTRY of Motor Vehicles 🙄… also in Massachusetts we never had to do a smog… we had to do vehicle inspections… make sure not a death trap, but they never cared about smog

Out here in California – they don’t care if you drive a death trap …as long as it does not pollute 😄✌️ ughh whatever

Anyway – I passed ❤️✌️ woo hoo! Also submitted to DMV so all my car shit there is done ✅

He went to pull my car out for me… and then when he got out of the car he just stopped and looked right in my eyes and just smiled for a minute 😳 … and then he says to me…

Do I know you from somewhere ?? 😳😳😳 umm what???

Why is this a running theme right now??? Why are people thinking they know me?? 😮😳 no one knows me… but he could see my full face!!

I have stayed out of view for a long time …

During cancer no one saw me except for the posts I would update on Facebook – but I rarely posted photos – and I was always in the hospital. I looked sick for a little while. I had tubes and drains etc. I just stayed out of sight … and my ex harassing me too so ya know… I lay low

And I just went silent from everyone after that surgery… they have not seen me in a very long time- I stay silent

I keep to self… I only usually do pick up shopping… there is no way I look familiar!! I do still look exactly (sorta) the same… with the boob exception but whatever

There is no way… there just isn’t and how do people recognize ME and I have no idea who they are?? What??? Yeah that is not possible!!!

I must have a doppelgänger or something???? Cause no!! No one knows me!

But that smile on his face 😳 and the way he was looking at me 😳 …

And when I said “yeah I don’t know? I probably just look familiar? You probably don’t know me.” (I don’t know what else to say?) That been happening a lot lately 😳

Then he started kinda tripping on his words ?? Lol…

He says “oh so are you “like” around here?”

Lol… yeah I’m around here lol

And then he smiles and says “yeah me too, um I’ll be right here, I’m always here – I work here, come stop by again” 😄😄😄

Umm 😄😄 sure ok thank you

And he just smiled and smiled and smiled lol 😄😄 alrighty then – have a nice day lol

That was funny.

But I am confused WHY people keep thinking they know me??? That is so weird??? Why is it constantly happening lately?? What is going on???

Do I look like someone? It’s just really weird – weirding me out a little ✌️

Normally I would have thought… yeah ok that’s a line 🙄🤨😄… and it could have been?? You know that ice breaker guys will say – quick easy starts a convo – yeah like we don’t know lol

BUT since this has happened a few times in the past couple days ???? Now that has my attention??? Why do I look familiar?? 😳😳😳 Lol

So weird!!!

Ok I be back I still have few more things to do

Ok… woo hoo! Totally adulting and kicking it out of the park… woo hoo!!

But I have question…

Ok so … I have done vehicle transfer online and also new title request… and registration – yay woo hoo!!

Also added vehicle onto insurance …

Ok new car just needs to be smogged 🤨😏 bleh smog

But whatever – I will get that done today! boom and boom

Now my question pertains to my little Toyota … ??? What do I do with it??

So let me see… what my options be?

I could list on eBay or craigslist and “part” it out … meaning sell parts off of it… cause I know some of those parts are worth money – catalytic converter is about $160-$200 just for that.

So I could “part” it out … but now that would mean I have to deal with god knows who?? 😮 would like to not be killed (or hit on or whatever else) I’m sure would be fine – I’m just a weirdo like that ✌️

I could have a friend put it on Facebook marketplace (I will not do that myself) but same thing as above.

OR… there is a pick and pull 🤨 for the ENTIRE car they will give me $163 🤨 lol … even if I drive it there

I can’t really sell it as a vehicle… because it has that cracked block??

So?? Hmm… what to do???

What would you do??

Any advice? What do I do with it?? 😳?? Ideas??

Partly I cry because while I share a lot that goes on, and I have kinda told my story somewhat… but the details are gruesome and horrific so those I have trouble with. They make me cry, it makes me sensitive

Ok well, this past weekend, I emailed my lawyer and just said I would have to cancel today’s appt because the retainer would be gone after this appointment. So unless he gets another court order to have his fees paid… there was nothing I could do. I would rather he do that than meet with me, so he could still help me.

Right away he message me back and said please keep the appointment – the only way to get answers is to come in.

Ok well whatever – it be gone anyway, so I listened and went in. At this point, ya know, is what is… so ok. I really don’t have a lot of faith or trust in lawyers or court or anything pertaining. I had explained my situation to him, and he still wanted to see me – so ok…

My ex is supposed to be paying a certain amount of support and he is court ordered to – but he does not… he pays a little but not even $1000… he makes ALOT – I do not, not at all.

So… anyway… in the office with this lawyer he ask me… has he ever answered to anything? …cause there is nothing in this file for him to answer anything

I said no. That has never ever been done… only to me, and I had to do back flips with that.

So… because he now has the house in his mothers name, as well as vehicles he has bought… etc etc

He will now have to answer an inquisition of many questions and we will subpoena all bank statements, credit card statements, 401k, all of those types of things, since date of separation… he is going to have to explain and prove everything!!!

Also we are going to attach his wages and that will go retroactive. Meaning his wages will be garnished to back pay everything owed

We will also be submitting a new support request based on the dissolution master?? I dunno thats what he called it – cause he is not paying enough.

So we see … my hopes really aren’t that high because #1… I don’t know that he will answer… this lawyer will go after him if he doesn’t though – I got a good one!!! #2 I dunno – we just see, I still don’t really believe or trust?

And we are going to ask for legal fees as well, but until then he say … even if you can just send $10… I will stay with you , work for you, help you, and make sure you are ok ❤️❤️❤️ so I cried 😢

He doesn’t panic me, I feel at ease, he isn’t mean and doesn’t bully ❤️ and he’s so smart and knows how to handle this!!!!

I don’t just feel like “another case oh well” … he actually is trying to help me ❤️

So that went well… like I said I cried…

As I was leaving…

I don’t know if you remember?? When I first got this lawyer?

The first time I ever called the office… the man who answered… he was kind and listened and then stopped me and said “hang on let me stop you right there and tell you that we are a Christian law firm”

When he had said that?? I didn’t know what he meant???

So I asked … does that mean you won’t take my case? I’m Catholic does that help? Is that ok?? I don’t want to switch or anything 🙏

He laughed and he said “no what I mean is, we actually care about our clients” ❤️ so ya know – when he said that to me, I just… I knew this lawyer was the one I wanted – however it turned out – I knew this was the right choice.

So anyway – I never forgot what he said… and his smiling face was the first face I see usually when I get there. He is always very kind and sweet! I just like him. I feel at ease?

Today when I got there, he was not there. No one was – I had to ring a bell 🛎… and then my lawyer came and brought me back.

I didn’t see that guys smiling face when I got there today. But whatever. I’m just used to seeing him there when I go in, and he’s always so kind.

Anyway… I went in, had the appointment with lawyer, like I told you…

And then I went to leave… when leaving… suddenly he is there… my face was already tear stained, but as I walked into the room – he stood up

And he said, Trisha! Is so good to see you, you look really good…

I smiled and went to say thank you, but before I could say anything he continued speaking …

He said… Trisha! Hi how are you???

I said “Good, was wondering where you were cause you weren’t there when I got here today”

He said “yeah I know, I actually took a lunch today, but I was disappointed and thought I missed you”

I just kinda laughed and said “yeah missed your smile too!”… I do not know him, and he does not know me… it’s just the kindness he always shows – I know I’m just a client – but he is sweet.

And then he kinda started speaking and said… “I kinda know a little bit about your case, and first off I want to say how sorry I am for everything you went through (so that instantly made me tear up) and I just want you to know how amazing you are and you are such a strong woman!”

Ok well yeah that did it and made me tear even more, I smiled and said thank you but I could feel the tears running down my cheeks under that full face mask.

I just smiled and wanted to get out because I knew I was gonna cry with that… and I did. Was hard to make it to the car!

That was really sweet to say … but it does make me cry. Just sensitive ya know.

So… I finally have the help now… however it goes now… I will be content with that.

When I go to see this lawyer – I might cry… but afterwards I feel peace ❤️

The other lawyers – made me feel panic all the time… and bullied… they never took time with me or tried to help… I have never had the peace like I do here… and I have also never had a lawyer actually care before … and actually work and do things to help!! I am impressed ❤️ ok so they aren’t all bad. There are some good ones – like I suppose with everything.

The lawyer has me say a prayer with him after we visit. At first was a little weird – not so much now, I kinda like it . It kinda feels peaceful

And I also remember making the comment here on the blog… this would either make me believe or not… so hmm… I do believe in god. But I’m just severely private with it. That is for me and me alone. I keep to myself with that and I be me… you be you.

But I will say…

I kinda see the warmth of god through this? I dunno so whatever – hard to explain

We see.

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Ok… so I cried … I picked the right lawyer!! ❤️ wait til you hear ❤️ he listens and he helps and he cares – the first lawyer who ever did that ❤️ … I guess they are not all bad ❤️ I wish I had him from the beginning!

I am still crying… I have to go find shoes 👟 … I kinda don’t even want to do that whew but I need to… I have no shoes to do stuff with

I was going to wear my daughters but I didn’t … I put them on and they are size 6 so they are small – I wear a size 7 or 7 1/2 … and her shoes on me just looked like I was trying to be a teenager so no!! I kinda got dressy… I am wearing black jeans, my black boots and a nice top.

Anyway… I cried and I can’t stop crying. Wait til you hear everything

Let me go find shoes 👟 I wanna get that done.

I will be back once I get home.

Whew – breathe

Btw it went good. Really good.

So handled the car… I had to go over to sisters house to do all that…

She asked me to take off shoes before entering house cause she just had carpets replaced – so I did that.

My shoes are old… but whatever I don’t care – is only my tennis shoes 👟… But is what I wear all the time at home… is the only pair I have. I have 5 pairs of shoes… black flats, black tall boots – both of those are for work… snow boots, flip flops and those tennis shoes.

I don’t really spend money, literally just to survive… and I bought that car, is cheaper than what I would have had to do taking that loan.

So anyway… the neighbor who has dog, the dog came over the house by himself while we were handling the car info… and took my shoes – chewed them all up – to shreds- I had to walk home barefoot 😮 omg

Now I have to go buy tennis shoes for myself… ugh … wasted money I should not be spending

Either I have to get all dressed up and wear the other dressy shoes I have – or borrow my daughters shoes for today. I not doing snow boots or flip flops! I will borrow daughters shoes.

I suppose I need new shoes ☹️.. I just don’t want to spend the money right now. And it’s for tennis shoes… stuff I wear at home.

Bleh… I hate shopping and I hate spending money!!! So I am just complaining because I have to do both of those things. 😝

Ugh right now is not the best time for that.

Ok well whatever – is what is. I’m going to have to shop 😝 … and I’m going to have to spend more money. On my fricken self

I am stressed with seeing lawyer today and now I have to shop too… and spend money… yes I am complaining very much.

Also… I have to say this… I wasn’t going to share this story yet… but my boss told me yesterday that 2 positions be possibly coming up for arranger and would like to put me at Haunted Mansion. Told me not to say anything to anyone yet

Haunted Mansion is really fancy and people with money use Haunted Mansion… so the money would be good.

I don’t think I want it. The stress level of no staff, and what is required and what I have learned with how the corporation operates with their employees – I don’t want that extreme pressure and stress and then the other thing is Haunted Mansion is furthest from me… so my mileage going to be huge.

I love working there – but again if there is no staff and I am in charge of all the arrangements in someone’s death… and they are not willing to give overtime or help – and supposably they monitor the time you spend on their presentations to the family… regardless of how well you do, you can get in trouble for not spending time on the presentations regardless if family say they do not want. You have to basically force the family to see entire presentation 🤨 and if you don’t – you are spoken to… and also their systems crash – but they don’t care about that either – they will still speak to you

I just see too many problems. I don’t want that stress level – sorry I can’t handle.

All their staff is up and quitting… and they are not willing to pay what worth or understand what worth is – yeah why would I take that?

I am not desperate enough to totally kill myself for some cooperation that doesn’t care about its employees – screw that shit! I am a person… not a money maker … and they have referred to me that way before … that I am not a current money maker 🤨 because I don’t do sales … they only care about money

I was not expecting any of that from my boss yesterday… and that was said after work…

And a few things do not sit right with me…

So one girl… said when they tried to force her to do something – work weekends – which was not how she was hired… and they milk this girl for all she’s got already!! But when she said no, they say take or leave it – so she leave and they didn’t care how good she is…

Ok I listened I watched

Then another from one of the other homes… mentioned to them she was not happy… this one is really good and very experienced… does amazing!! She is not happy because of the severe lack of staff, is difficult to do the job… they expect you to do your own job plus more, but not pay more… or care at all… so when she voiced her opinion… they are now actually encouraging her to leave and find another job!! 😮

All across the board at all the homes in the area – not just mine… people leaving.

They don’t care.

This is a business you are supposed to have compassion with!!! The thing they say all the time is… is all about the families, the families come first…

While yes of course, but if your own family is dysfunctional – you aren’t gonna be of service to any families!!!

And if they are too blinded by money to see the incredible staff they had and appreciate the team work we all had… well fuck it then.

What do I care about making a corporation money when my own family suffers? And then also I am not killing myself for them.

I do actually love the job itself and loved the staff we had… but now no staff and the job be too stressful. I can’t

Whew so alright … whatever

Ok lawyer then shoes 🤨😝 ugh shoes 👟 I hate shopping!!!