I’m a little nervous to do that lol … just incase I get a call
Sometimes if you wake me from sleep – IF I am really tired … I can totally SEEM awake …and have a full complete convo with you – but I am actually still asleep lol – you have to make sure I am awake sometimes lol ✌️
I got everything done on time, and awesomely today… way better day than yesterday!!! Woo hoo!
Tonight I am on call- incase anyone dies – can NO ONE die tonight please??!! 🙏🙏🙏
Also… let me just share something so people know…
Some woman unrelated to “A” person from this area, who died on Thursday… want to know if we had them? She claimed to be a friend
Ok first of all… there is a privacy act. So unless you are “next of kin” – I can not verify or give out ANY information to you. Sorry. Confidentiality – nothing you say will change that.
Then she explains this person had no family and they want to pay for the funeral… ok well here’s the other thing…
If a person dies with no family there to sign off as next of kin… it is up to the coroner to try to contact any next of kin…
If this person truly had no family – then she needs to deal with the coroner.
The coroner will have the body because there is no next of kin to sign the body over to the funeral home for pick up.
She wanted me to look up all the funeral homes in this area and give her there numbers.
Umm no!!! I’m not doing that… I have many things to do!! I am working!! (I didn’t say that – but there was no way I was doing that !!!)
I told her again… no matter how many funeral homes you call- you are going to get same answers… the one you need to deal with is the coroner.
So then she says do they have an emergency line lol…
Ok that made me laugh lol… emergency line for the coroner lol 😄
I told her… Not that I am aware of… they don’t really do emergency stuff lol – they handle after the fact.
And then she’s like… well what about an after hours number?
It is Sunday lol… coroner is Monday through Friday business hours … you will have to wait until they open tmrw
I do not know if she understood what I say or not??
Funeral homes do not just go around picking up dead bodies all over the place lol … you have to sign the body into our possession. Then we take over – we have laws we have to follow.
Also… funeral people, coroners, and such… do not live at work… we do go home.
So anyway that was a big thing… she’s not going to get anywhere with any funeral home… we can’t just give out info to anyone. There are laws.
Only the coroner will have body, if no next of kin has come forward.
And then, I was talking to office manager on phone at one point… going over many things.
All the changes with having 3 funeral homes now… and she said I can’t promise you… but I will bring up to district manager – but with 3 locations – I could use assistant 😮🙏 that would be awesome – but I am not holding my breath either… is a corporation so we see. 🙏
She also told me be careful with girls at ugly walls – I told her I know already … I am observant
One of them is always saying not so nice things about others… so I don’t trust her not to say not so nice stuff about me, since she does with everyone else. I have observed. I saw that
The young one… seems really nice and helpful…
But ofc manager told me to be careful of her too cause she will throw you under the bus in a heartbeat if she feels like it, and is know it all, always thinks she’s correct.
I can’t get a good read on the young one – she does kinda seem like a perfectionist… but I am too in certain areas.
She seems very sweet and helpful so far.
I haven’t worked with her enough to see her true colors
Also… she is young… the other one is older than me… upper management has a hard time with them. The older one might influence the younger one how to be? Just a thought?
But again I haven’t worked enough with the young one – I will be now – so we will see. So far, I like the young one. But I will be observant and careful.
Ugh ugly walls. So much drama 😝🤨
That’s why mine is the best… no drama what so ever – we adore each other – if one needs help – we jump in with whatever … and mine is even jumping all over all 3… it’s not just me doing this!! All of us from mine do!!
Which is why we are the easiest and get along really well with upper management. We have communication also!! Which is a massive thing!!
Have people forgotten how to communicate?? Oh my god! It’s like the easiest thing for me… most of the time … in a work setting, definitely!!
Anyway… I still kinda look at jobs. I have to. So whatever
Today my old golf course posted my old job!!! Someone must have quit or left?
I miss those people and that job soooo much… is good money!! Really awesome job!!!!
I would love to go back… but my arm and nerve damage wouldn’t let me do what needs to be done for that job. I would need massive help.
They would take me back in a second! It would be a huge draw for me to go back… a lot of attention!! And being hit on again ALOT,.. like constantly… but it was “work”, so never really phased me? overwhelming sometimes but again was work
It’s only part time anyway / no benefits … good money – just no benefits for part time
I can’t do that either.
But when I saw it… for one split second – my heart thumped…
It’s different now anyway. They are building houses near the course and taking away from the peace of it…
Also when corona happened – it was completely shut down!!! I couldn’t do that 😮 they were shut down forever!!
It is sports entertainment… it’s also a strenuous job too, I have to load and reach, I can’t really with that arm… I am slow now… not like before.
It is also weather permitting… In rain- is shut down 😝 – I cant trust the weather like that in the winter
So too many cons. It wouldn’t work. But I did love that job VERY VERY MuCH!!
I’d say was happiest job I have ever had ❤️ In all aspects – coworkers, clientele, area all of it … I laughed ALL the time, every day – and had THE best stories… and could speak freely whatever I wanted – and we just had a blast!! It was fun times
I just loved it there so completely!! Best job ever
Anyway now I am on call for the funeral home. Lol
I almost had a heart attack like 20 minutes ago… the phone rang and I have to answer with the funeral home name.
There is an answering service but we try not to use them due to cost. They catch any overflow.
It was them verifying the line and making sure we had the phones … yup we do thanks
That was easy – whew!
Alright gonna read in a second finally.
I got engulfed with funeral stuff lol – how did that happen?
This morning on my way in… that bad day song I posted yesterday – came on the radio 📻 … ya know… just to remind me of yesterday lol ✌️
But new day today – all by myself – ahhhh – I do have a lot to do and prepare for tonight 😮 I want to be ON IT! 🙏
I will have to talk to boss about 1 thing…
When I leave – I have to be on the highways … for one hour or so while I drive home… I don’t know how to take a death call while driving 😮 and that worries me… I take massive highways… how do I do that… pull off on the exits ?
And then that’s gonna take me long time – to get off, and then also I have to take the information – get in contact with my care center. Get the information to them.
How the hell am I gonna get home? – unless I hope and pray no one dies for an hour, until I can get home 🤨
Ugh so I will have to ask about that today.
Alright – I have to get to work. Wanna be done and prepared ✌️
So Friday night again… when they got here… the boys were talking about stocks.
My oldest has Apple Stock. So he’s made some money.
But the stock is splitting soon.
That means is going to increase the outstanding stocks and lower the price of the stock.
So if you have a stock, it will be split into several stocks – so instead of owning only one, you will have a couple. Whatever … this is like the 4th or 5th time they have done that!
He wants to try day-trading 😮 I told him “careful that’s how people lose their shirts”!! Be very careful with that.
He does real estate stuff … and said he would be careful, but he has the real estate to fall back on 🤨… still “be careful” I don’t like playing with money like that.
Also… Not that I do any social media other than this, but they do 🙄… and Trump said something about banning TikTok from the United States (Chinese based company)
Ugh whatever doesn’t bother me. But daughter is all mad lol
They haven’t done it yet. But that’s what he says. Could be banned as early as Saturday (tmrw) should he decide to do an executive order.
We talked about Corona… California is rising fast… cause we have protests and then in Southern California they have refusal to wear masks in some areas.
California has become the first state to surpass 500,000 cases.
I kinda mentioned what I want just incase – you know, final wishes
I had to do that with them before anyway, with the cancer … so they know – I was just refreshing and updating lol ✌️
They isolate too, and wear masks.
Alright so then, all the serious stuff was out of the way… now game time…
We played some Japanese game? Something about water? It’s a card game … is very cool… but kinda not alot of depth to it… so oldest can win right away 🤨 that went fast.
18 doesn’t like to lose against oldest lol … so he did not want to play the next game lol
The next game was another card game someone gave me when I was in the hospital… is called “Set” …is a set matching game that matches shapes, colors and patterns. You have to make sets of them and do it fast. It’s fun.
Usually 18 will play that, but not after being beaten by oldest right out of the gate 🙄🤨
Oldest won’t go easy on us because he says we have to learn to beat him 🤨🙄😄
When he was little and I would play video games with him… he would get mad when I would win lol… I would sometimes try not to win – but would usually win.
So I would tell him, practice and get better than me 🤨 … I MEANT in video games!!! NOT ALL games Lol … which he has totally surpassed me now… I won’t even verse him on a video game – no way!! He would crush me instantly lol
So then they all bored with the games we had.
I have games too, so I pulled out Scattergories …
You have different categories and roll a dice to see what letter you have to work with. A timer gives you 3 minutes to think of words beginning with the letter shown on the dice, and fits the categories. We vote on questionable answers cause sneaky people try to pull funny answers just to have points lol
But that was funny cause we laughing a lot – and I got them to play 6 rounds and everyone loved it. Good game! ❤️ lots of laughs 🥰
I made pizza for dinner… a regular one for us… and then oldest does that keto thing so I made a cauliflower crust? I followed some recipe. Is supposed to be delicious
Ours was awesome as always… I tried one piece of the cauliflower crust one… 😳😝😝😝 eewwww tasted like cauliflower … I expected it to just magically be like pizza but it was definitely not!!
But he tried it and said wow this is better than any other cauliflower thing I have tried 😮😳
So maybe because he doesn’t eat other foods than the keto? Maybe it changes his taste buds? I thought it was gross but whatever – he ate that and was really happy lol so that was good.
He said… he had some sugar this week and instantly was exhausted with no energy 😮 said he didn’t even feel good with the sugar… so he continued on with this keto.
He also said, he’s editing some movie? He does video editing sometimes… is a umm 🤔 indie movie?… so he’s been working on that and he’s all excited with it. (He does a lot of things)
He wouldn’t tell me what about yet, cause he wants me to just see when is finished. So I am highly curious!!!!
Anyway, that was it tonight. We all were kinda tired and stressed from this week, was still amazing and fun though ❤️
Tmrw I work “ugly walls” 😝😑 I just really do not like that place at all! I just don’t
Daughter wanna come with me, so whatever. I was like are you sure? Yeah mum I like coming with you – what time do we have to get up?
I said REALLY early!!!
What time is “really” early?
We have to leave the house NO LATER than 7am!!
Ok I’ll be ready she says 🤨🙄😄 let see how this goes ✌️
Today I am going to be working on my own stuff. Still a little overwhelmed with it… but whatever – I can only do my best. I am trying.
In the meantime, my girlfriend is having surgery later in August – she will need my help August 24-28th. So we will stay there and I will care for her when not working.
Then… in September – remember my little elderly man I talk to from time to time? The one I used to take care of, the one who fires everyone else…
He is having surgery in September and needs me to bring him and take him home from the hospital. So I’ll do that for him on September 8th (he has no one else, his family can’t – they are either too old or too far) I don’t mind at all and enjoy catching up with him… everyone needs someone!!
I have to call him today anyway.
These people are like my family, have been for awhile now…
The elderly man has known me for over 20 years… that’s why he’s so comfortable with me… and while his family sometimes doesn’t understand him, he is quirky and once an idea is in his head – he is hard headed lol
But I understand him. He will listen to me. I stick up for him with the family on some matters – and when they can’t be there for him – I am.
He gave me work, when I was in need.
He has watched what I went through. He stood there solid through that. Being supportive and just being a friend.
And my girlfriend – she has been my rock through my devastation …
I said before everyone needs “someone” … she was my someone… she picked me up from the pile of tears I had going on and kinda held me tight for awhile, even when I fought it.
So those people are a solid in my life … I would do anything for them ❤️ they have done for me when I needed.
And that’s how you do life 😘✌️for me anyway.
No matter what happens with my things … I have incredible people surrounding me ❤️ so I don’t have to have fear strike me AS much… it still does
My ex is brutal in all senses of that word. He is Satan to me.
One day he will meet his karma on his own.
I hear a lot about forgiveness – do I forgive while I am still at his mercy and he is still brutal?
No … I don’t … he doesn’t ask for it, and he doesn’t need it.
While working on my things… there are somethings that are going to be bad.
He has no mercy with me at all.
I have been quiet.
But now it’s in my hands – if I give mercy, he will bury me.
I am a mercy giver usually… so this is hard for me on many levels.
I now have to turn and face Satan and slam it down.
The problem with that is, because he is so brutal… and that would piss him off… he already comes at me with vengeance… basically to keep me quiet.
When I speak I am a little worried cause I haven’t been protected… so I worry about what the vengeance would be?? That scares me a little – I feel panic with that.
It makes me question, how to do this. But whatever – is just the panic I feel inside.
I want to be free from him so badly!! More than anything in the world… I just want him out of my life
This service was a Catholic service… the service was held at a Catholic Church ⛪️
However – due to corona – things are handled quite oddly at the moment.
Everything is outside, with masks, and distance.
We had to wait on pall bearers to bring casket out.. they took forever!!! Even the priest was like … “we have to bring the casket out.”
The pall bearers (people who hold the casket and bring it out) were from the family. They wanted certain people only, and then once we had them all…
The family wanted to wait until the husband got there … but we were already pushing time.
So we had to bring out the casket before the husband got there.
It rolls out of the hearse… and onto a platform with wheels… and each pall bearer (3 on each side) wheel the casket over.
The priest blessed the casket… we covered the casket with a beautiful shroud
They did a mass with communion… and then we refolded the shroud, and put the flowers on top of the casket.
The flowers were incredible!! Seriously THE most beautiful flowers, I have seen yet!!! That was a lot of money!!! That was incredibly beautiful!!
We loaded the other flowers in to the van that I was driving…
And then we had to wait for the pall bearers again 🤨
I walked in front while they followed behind with the casket – and we loaded it into the hearse.
We to that same catholic memorial park, I told you about before? The one with only markers in the ground or on the walls.
Once again we had to wait on pall bearers.
And then my girl says to me – you need to take the coach back right away!! They need it ASAP 😮
Wait what? What will I be driving? They call the hearse “the coach” – whatever
So I got to drive the hearse back to the funeral home. You definitely draw attention driving a hearse… and no one cuts you off – they wait lol ❤️✌️
I DO like the way the hearse handles!! I kinda want one 😄😘
Evidentially my girls from MY funeral home… did not plan well… they had one funeral far away where their hearse was needed – but the girl had a service here in town and needed a hearse so they took ugly walls hearse.
Also… the family was nice enough not to make us wear those black jackets – so I was extremely thankful for that!!
On my way home I needed something from store and actually had to go in… a complete strange woman stopped me just to tell me how beautiful I looked – that was very nice
I’m cool if a woman says it… if a man says it my guard goes up lol – funny how that works 😘
But that was nice 🥰
That was a long day. I got to escape back early and not stay at burial, but only because they needed the hearse.
When my grandmother met my grandfather … she didn’t like him at first 😄😄
She came from an upper class family – white collar
My grandfather was kind of a street kid. Cool kid… cigarette pack rolled up in his white T-shirt type lol
Her family is Lithuanian – not Irish. His family was very Irish.
His family was blue collar. Hard workers, little pay, lived hard.
They were young when they met… 16/17?
She was waiting at a bus stop… and he would yell out to her “hey blonde” lol
She did not like that lol 😄😄
So she would turn away towards the girlfriend she would be with…
But she saw him so often, and he would make her laugh… he was delightful! A toughie, but delightful ❤️ she started liking him.
So anyway… they were married at 18… had my father at 19… and the rest is history. My grandfather moved in with them. To help take care of her parents, that’s what you did… they got the house because of that.
He was always playful with her… he used to walk by and spank her butt…
So one day – I did that 😄😄 … but I got in trouble lol … is funny to remember lol – I was really little lol … how come he can do it?? Lol
I did NOT do that again lol
He used to grab her and kiss her and lean her back like that photo…
Afterwards she would playfully smack his arm
She would let him be the man, and he let her be the boss lol ❤️✌️
She was like my mom … she took care of him and the family… did the dinners, house was spotless…
They used to have a box of toys for me… they had all boys… they had never had a girl in the house… I was the first … the box had a few things …
I had a small plastic baby doll. Some blocks – a few Lincoln logs … little tiny toy trinkets
I always brought my own toys too lol … but I did love that box.
And every time we visited, from when I was an infant … every year… my grandfather would take me down in the basement (it’s spooky down there – house was built 1914, dirt basement floor – 3 decker)
He would have me paint my hand and leave my imprint on the boiler. That boiler has my hand prints up until age 18! 😮
Not sure what happened to it. But I loved doing that!! I would love to see that boiler now! It’s probably gone forever.
When I was little, my uncles were still kids (in high school)
One would take me by the arms, and the other would take my legs – and they would swing me all around lol – I used to laugh so hard, and totally loved it …but I also loved calling for my grandmother …
“Nanny!!! They are swinging me!!”
They would throw me really high onto the couch, before she marched in and scolded them lol … she would tell them to stop it, don’t tease her lol … and they would get a lecture lol
She would leave… and I would say “do it again!” 😄😄 they always did 😄❤️
Nanny would sleep with me, when I came to visit – she would be trying to fall asleep and I would be excited to be there lol – stay up all night with me lol
I used to tease her about a boogie man lol… I wanted to tell her every story about everything – when I wasn’t with them lol … she would always fall asleep lol
She used to snore lol… sometimes it woke me up lol … both her and Grandaddy did lol
He used to take me to this amazing place … it was called Spag’s … it was in Shrewsbury, Massachusetts – it’s no longer there 😔💔 the founder died, the children screwed it up… lost it to Building 19… and it just never regained the power it once had and went out of business.
Instead of saving it for historical purposes … some stupid developer demolished it 😢💔 that was sad
Was beloved … 1934 to 2004 it served the community. It was truly an icon of that area… It should have been kept as a museum but whatever.
But anyway … he used to take me there – you could get anything … clothes, food, furniture, garden, automotive… anything. It was huge!! Many buildings
He would bring me inside and say – ok meet me back here … go pick out anything you want 😮
I was that kid that was like can you clarify “anything” ?
He would just say “whatever you want sweetheart, go get it”
I didn’t go big ticket lol… I just wanted stuffed animals or baby dolls, maybe barbies… I didn’t really need for anything
One time … With my grandmother … she took me shopping downtown one day… we got clothes … I wanted to stop in the music store – so we did.
I was under age… maybe 14? I wanted a tape that had parental guidance lol … no way my parents allowed it
But grandparents didn’t know that stuff lol… so because she was with me … the store sold it to me lol
My parents never knew lol… I always listen to that with headphones lol – I thought I was pretty slick
The best times ever were at my grandparents house …
I was the first child to my parents so they were strict. I was first born so highly protective …
At my grandparents house… they pulled rank… so I had freedom there… my parents had no control lol
If my parents were gonna tell me no, or if they got mad at me for something… my grandparents stepped in front … pulled the parent rank
Was awesome!!! ❤️❤️❤️ to watch your own parents, get in trouble by THEIR parents lol – was kinda funny lol – I loved it!
That’s me in the blue with the face lol… cause the camera was always in my face! They were always saying “ok smile” lol… so I gave that smile … I had probably had a lot of candy lol … my grandfather is holding my little brother
That was the kitchen. That house was old with many perfect hiding spots … tiny doorways in walls… yeah great house for hide and seek… or to be hidden away and hear everything lol
They always used funny words – like rubbish instead of trash… or parlor … lol … both them and that house were a constant in my life always.
I used to have free roam in that 3-decker!! Except the basement apartment. One of my uncles friends rented that.
But the other 3 floors were all family!!
Katherine who was on the second floor – was a cousin of my GREAT grandmothers…
I would bounce up to her house too… she was in her 90’s … she would always have chocolate chip cookies for me – I would sit and tell her about school.
The top floor was my grandmothers sister and her family… so I played with them. (Until actual cousins started coming)
I was always the favorite grandchild though. Lol … I was the one always so excited to be there and be with them… the others eh.
My brother and sister were attached to my mom … and the other cousins they saw all the time… we were the only ones to leave.
So whenever they saw me… I was like gold. I only got to see them maybe once or twice a year. We kept moving farther and farther away.
I lived all over the eastern seaboard and some of the Midwest, before coming to California.
When my dad got sick… we came home to Massachusetts. I was 17.
Eventually I got a really good job at an insurance agency… right there in their town ❤️
So I used to go visit often. Definitely weekly.
Then my ex got transferred out here to California with a computer company … that took me away again.
Then it was every few years – cause I had kids of my own. It was expensive to go from California to Massachusetts all the time!! With a family…
They could no longer travel… so was hard. But we talked on the phone a lot.
I had a wonderful loving childhood. They were amazing ❤️
My mother’s family is very different lol … I still love them, they were just different lol …
Not as loving… there was some dysfunction over there lol
I will tell stories about that side later – those are some funny ones too …kinda -ish lol
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