Alright

Ok … so one of the reasons I do the blog, the way I do it, is because I know mental health is issue with people – including myself.

But what I wish to portray is “Life” … we are not taught life… there is no manual. You have to do the best you believe, but life will throw things at you.

What I want you to keep in mind, is that … sometimes life gives incredible highs… you are so happy that your heart could burst, and you feel like you are on top of the world.

https://youtu.be/w5tWYmIOWGk

Then you have moments that are just peaceful, and some that are not.

In life you will see things that will stick in your mind and effect who you are or how you think.

I also want to show you that sadness and devastation is part of life too for all of us.

I feel it is more healthy when you see all sides of life. I like to avoid bad things if I can. 2017 was my absolute year of devastation… but 2022 probably gonna punch me. Whew ok.

But I want you to see “A” life with ups and downs – not perfect. Plus you only know my words mostly.

Life is truly a rollercoaster.

These are things you need to stay strong through.

I sometimes wonder if I will die from that broken heart syndrome thing… I think my heart will take me out. Someday.

The heart is something that I am sensitive with. 💔 inside my heart actually bleeds – I’m pretty sure, cause it feels that way.

So I have to prepare myself for my mother to pass 😩😭😭

Ok so I know this is coming. Whew.

I don’t have her now. 💔 I lost both my parents when my dad died 😭💔

But… ok so I struggle because my heart jumps in and scrambles my brain… but then the brain keeps trying to bring my heart into reality. Sometimes the heart power is very strong!

Those 2 sides clash!!!

It’s just … my mom 😭 …so see, even in my writing you are going to see heart – and then also my brain trying to make it stable.

So … my mom … all 3 of us were attached to her hip. She was beautiful and gentle and kind – soft sweet old school demeanor … I am her carbon copy… only difference is – I am more modern version … sorta I older now though

I am the oldest of 3… I have a brother and a sister.

I love them very much. ❤️ we are across the United States from each other don’t get to see very often but we text and talk or FaceTime all the time – they like the only people I FaceTime lol

My mom was funny – she was always making us laugh ❤️❤️ you never ever ever doubted her love for you… she was devoted to her family and children.

The last of the classic generation.

She had good morals and was a wonderful role model for how to be a person… but she did kinda raise me for 100 years ago… so 🤷‍♀️ whatever – I work it and own it, so I figure out. Sometimes best lessons are ones you learn for own self.

When I would get in trouble, of course she would say my first and middle name lol … the full one lol

She just had a very loving and kind nature – always taking care of others … the doctors wanted to ask her what she would like to do… but my brother has power of atty. and if you asked my mother what she wish to do… she would tell you either: “oh no don’t worry about me, or oh ok.”

My mannerisms are just like her. I look like her when she was younger.

She is my heart – loving and caring … funny and whatever lol … that part is her

My father is my mind – realistic – that part is him

My dad always seemed ocd? Or that’s what they always used for excuse

Every morning they would have their cereal bowls and things set out perfectly … was that to remind someone of what happens in the morning ? Or just my dads ocd?

My mom would save things for sentimental reasons and my dad would label and categorize it.

So mostly I am my mothers daughter. But I also have pieces of my father.

Or is that for me to remember?

You are effected by how raised and what you go through… who the people are in your life.

Keep people who love you and have your back. Make sure you love who you are… keep people who will have your back through the worst of times. The solid ones. Earth angels

See … there is an American Christmas movie classic called “It’s a Wonderful Life” … you see how one person can effect another’s life… and you see humanity and how precious relationships are.

And then I have their life in photos and movies – so to watch and be in the ending really breaks my heart. 💔 I am not ready for the ending

But then like I said I do not have her – she is not here with me 😭 what I have of my mother is gone so to know and watch her suffer just pulls my heart out.

I want her back sooo badly … that’s my mom 😩😭💔

But then I also want her to have peace

But then that means she won’t be here at all 💔😭

I am blessed to have had such amazing parents and was given a good life to be raised in… I know I am lucky and thankful with that.

When she dies … I be the oldest in the family 😮

I am blessed for my mom – thank you for giving HER to me ❤️

Just to lose her hurts so much and my mom was supposed to live forever. 🙏✌️

I just see her life…. As comes to end … and then my heart breaks 💔

I see a lot of death … but after the death … to actually go through the death is more heart wrenching – harder to keep stable since your heart aches and you want to cling.

Yes I miss my mom… I want her back

She always would say when we die everyone we ever loved be waiting there all happy and excited to see you.

My mom was optimistic type – I am somewhat that way mostly I think … but her world was always sunshine and roses 🌹- we would tease her – but we are same

She always teased me saying I lived in “Pleasantville” because people always so nice to me

Ok so… the end. Ok I guess I can maybe grow up? Which I have as a person – but as a daughter I have not… I do not want to let go – please don’t leave me

But then it’s better for her to have peace – and what I have anyway? I want peace for her

One day… you will lose your people… one day your world changes. Sometimes you have no choice.

We have Covid, we have war, economy is awful, everyone fights … but do we see?

Just life?

https://youtu.be/RNOTF-znQyw

😭

So ok – life.

Sometimes is amazing – sometimes punches you in gut! You have to be ok through punches – be strong

Have a strong support around you… is ok to push away to have a moment of peace … everyone handles things differently. Handle the way best but be strong… is moment

https://youtu.be/aDBkbRmYFkI

So life does that. Be aware. Don’t take for granted

Anyway… so my mothers status…

My mom had a heart attack yesterday, they did chest compressions before transporting her to hospital … so maybe her heart stop for moment ? 😭💔

She is fine in hosp sedated and still intubated – they intubated her yesterday – they sedated her because she did not want that down her throat and we are afraid she will take it out.

So because of her age (75) and Alzheimer’s we are going to less invasive treatment rather that open heart surgery for stint… we gonna pull the intubation tube out tmrw … and she gonna stay in hosp under supervision and see what happens 🙏

She takes a drug for high blood pressure that she has taken for years called:
Lisinopril

But suddenly they think is causing the allergic reaction causing her stomach and tongue to swell, they still have not been able to get that swelling down

So.

Oh yeah and also… I have not done any medical tests… now they call me to offer counseling saying is part of my team – I was on call so I was taking someone’s death call when they left that message. I have not called back yet

Last week a man with similarities to my dad died and last night someone had my mothers name…

Do you believe life sends you signs? Is he calling for her? Ya know? Is time for them to be back together?

So I try very hard to prepare myself – but it is hard. With so much. Death just surrounds me at moment 😮 and is it giving me warning signs? I don’t know?

My parents were so in love always… never lost that … when you see a deep deep deep love like that and one passes (if they older) it seems like the other will pass within 5 years.

I kinda lost both parents the day my dad died so …

Shouldn’t this be easier ? Since I know is coming and I work in it? But no it is not. I will never get to have my parents on this earth again.

I am strong … I am used to change. I can adapt..

But my heart breaks to lose my mom 💔😭 heart wrenching… just pull my heart out type

So what if I am not ready to lose her – life does not play on MY time line. So … I am half heart and half realist … that is like the worst combo ever!!!

Half the time I cry… half the time I pep talk self into reality

My oldest coming over to be with me and hang today ❤️ he been doing that a lot

He gonna see that I cry today 😮 I am swollen lol … I am allergic to crying ✌️😘 all the water of my body goes to my tears and swells my face lol … plus it makes me all red and blotchy … see allergic. ✌️

Ok I have to go. I let you know as I can 😘❤️✌️

I love you – thank you for being there ❤️✌️

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  1. I don’t know what to say. If it’s really her time, I hope she’s able to be comfortable and at peace.

    I hope you find away not to stress too much, whatever happens. Maybe your job will help with that. At least you’ll know how to handle things if she passes… a small blessing.

    Lisinopril is what caused my drug-induced lupus (that made me mostly bedridden for 4 yrs). I hope they change her med!

    I’m sending you well wishes and comforting thoughts.

    Are you going to try to visit?

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    1. I hope so too – yes removing that med and seeing what happen 🙏🙏

      If she enters hospice I’m gonna go right away, or if they think is need for me to come right away – I gonna go.

      This will be my BIGGEST death ever in my life – my most heavy 💔

      I also think there is lesson for me really loud. Life is almost shouting at me…

      My father died from heart attack because his heart was weak from chemo and radiation they said…

      And my mother had her heart attack because her arteries are clogged

      So. Maybe loud message to me also?

      Both of them. Ok.

      And I don’t know how I will take her loss? It seems soooo devastating!

      Part of my heart dies when she does 💔

      I be fine just very devastated

      I do what I can afford. 🙏🙏

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      1. I highly suggest getting a LifeLine Screening. Basic package, which includes risks for heart attack and stroke, is $139. Quick, clothed, and non-invasive. Site will say no appts. Either call or sign up for notices. Well worth the price!!

        Even though we were no longer in youch, losing Joel changed me forever. I now seem relatively unaffected by humam death. I’m not. But I’m accepting and people interpret it as being cold.

        I wish you the best.

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      2. I try to accept but this one has my heart all tangled

        I understand the realistic view/perspective … I try to accept that way.

        It’s just my mom so this one is hard for me to lose. We have all 3 been really attached to her always… she is a wonderful mother

        So…. I try to be realist but then because she my mom, the heart takes over – I am too sensitive because it is her.

        I see all different ways people take death at work… everyone is different. I help people through that and yet can not help my ownself 😮 ??

        Thank you 🥰❤️

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      3. I don’t think you’ll ever be able to accept this. My acceptance came after Joel passed… years after. If we’d still been close, I’m certain I would never get past it.

        Manage however you do. And reach out when you want/need support!

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  2. I get where you are with this Trisha. It’s hard. There are no easy words or ways, so all l can say is keep the happiest memories of all close to your heart and if you need to rant or vent or just need to write a thousand words non-stop you know my email. Hugs to you and wishing you clear thoughts.

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  3. I have never experienced loss to I don’t know how you must be feeling in reality. But I have always liked you as a person and you always seemed strong because of the work you do. But family is different, I guess no one can be strong with family. It’s heartbreaking.

    I am praying for your mother and your family. I hope the best supposed to happen will happen.

    Take care and God bless you. 🙏

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    1. Thank you ❤️

      Well I am a heart person… mostly… I have great empathy and can relate to a situation or understand it usually.

      I am very in touch with emotions – I work in them

      But is my parents – the ones who give me life and guide me through it… is what made me today

      My heart is deeply attached so I just struggle because my heart breaks to lose them. I am just sensitive because I love them so much

      I know it is life so I am a realist too but… I just can’t stop the heart from bleeding in from their loss 💔

      It devastates my heart 💔

      Is ok. Is just emotion. I am just processing somewhat

      I am just very sad to lose 💔 this death kinda makes me like a little girl just clinging to her parents

      I feel like that anyway. But I know I have to let go. I’m just clinging because hurts sooo much

      You kinda have to let out emotion – I do not know how to make this emotion chill out

      Even with families – if they need to cry on me – go ahead get that out… do not keep emotion bottled – it is highly carbonated lol … if they need to cry, please by all means.

      Is best to let the cries out.

      It’s life – just like there are incredible happy times … there is these moments of sadness or loss

      Everyone handles differently

      Also to know yourself – you have to know both your mind and your body.

      And in life there is always balance … like good/evil, happy/sad, light/dark

      Is fabric of life – balance

      Someone you love passes and then your life change without them… the life you loved with them is done – you just have the love and memories… so you mourn the loss of the person – but you forever touched in spirit

      It’s just time becomes something else – and life goes on

      She is hard to lose because she is my mom – I am attached deeply

      I am going to be devastated for little while… I will just cry probably, because my heart will be sooo sad

      But I will accept – I don’t have choice. I have to just brace myself… so I prepare

      I remember when my father died… we just cried nonstop … it was just crying all the time omg … for like maybe 2 weeks or something?? Until we just couldn’t cry anymore

      You do feel your heart bleed from the loss of love? I don’t know?

      After crying then we can speak about the funny moments or quirks … remember with love … but it still hurts – you still miss them.

      Just to know I won’t have at all …kinda hurts a lot – but I know will be peace … so I am trying to find a balance with that

      I cry because am sensitive with heart things

      I do good at work because I can feel another’s heart with loss usually.

      When it is not my own… I can calmly help guide you and walk you through …

      But when it is mine I forget everything and just cry from sadness

      We know how death works at work… there is a thing called brain fog when people experience loss…

      It is hard because it smacks you – and your thoughts are all over the place to be able to think straight – because there is battle between the hearts cries and the brains reality – the brain really can’t control the heart lol ✌️

      If families need time to collect themselves we let them tell us when they ready… sometimes it’s hard for people

      But then this is where I understand people more? When it is raw… just the pain of grief or loss – I know heart very well ✌️

      To every beginning there is an end… and to every end – there is a new beginning

      So there is that too.

      But the moment of loss is very hard. 💔

      Thank you very much always ❤️

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  4. Dear I don’t what to say or comment here but I know I’m not physically present but I’m with you & lovely God is with you.

    Take care dear & if possible please update your mom health. I sure she will be fine very soon❤

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    1. Thank you ❤️ thank you for the support in spirit ❤️

      I will update with changes – so far is same – but we be speaking to drs later

      I do hope she be fine 🙏 thank you ❤️ but I know a time is coming. ☹️

      Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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      1. Send positive viber to her please🙏……and you don’t know anything…..only My lovely God know….believe me she will be fine soon soon soon soon❣️❣️❣️❣️

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      2. ❤️❤️❤️🤗 thank you – yes I pray 🙏🙏🙏 I also hope… I just also brace – I worry.

        Thank you for the support ❤️❤️❤️

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      3. Don’t worry
        Lord Shiva (Death-defeating God) is with mom. You just send good vibes and see the magic😇😇😇
        Take care yourself….Have your food on time and put a smile on your face🤗🤗

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      4. ❤️❤️❤️ you are very kind to say that thank you – you even remember to tell me to eat and stay strong ❤️ thank you – that is very sweet and thoughtful ❤️

        🙏🙏🙏

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