If you curious…
Is a different state than mine – is east coast – Connecticut. So be slight differences in laws and regulations? But generally that is like a funeral home in United States – not all look like someone’s home? But they have a feel to them. This persons video is closest to my world.
(By law you do not have to be embalmed in California either)
You really can’t be weirded out by the human body. – you giving people last moment of peace on earth. And all of us have bodies. Lol
Funerals used to be different here though…
It became big business because took that responsibility off your shoulders when you already devastated in grief
I remember the parlor at my grandparents house … it was exactly as they describe – the nicest furniture and photos – nicest room in house … you weren’t supposed to be in there without purpose or you could use it wanted silence just for sitting in peace or saying rosary ? But was not a room normally used … for company yes maybe… and I remember seeing those funeral photos in that room.
Even now we will have families who the next of kin can just not cope with the death – and how you gonna plan a funeral like that?
Is uncomfortable subject for most… and in devastation is hard to go through
So turned into big business – you don’t watch it because no one wants to think of death ever. But you should.
And it’s a documentary and really long… but if you curious… also a thing around my job
(I love that documentary – my kids can not stand the documentaries I watch lol – they roll their eyes) but is curious and fascinating – many things to learn or know
As with anything – the more you know – the better
We help anyone … we help whatever religion how they would like. Whether you religious or you not … we do how wish.
There are many workings.
We work with many churches and have many different kinds of services
I have a chapel and reception rooms… also arrangement rooms … we have urn rooms – but we do not have a casket room – we do not have caskets ⚰️ on site until the decedent is casketed and we have our own Carecenter – we use only one.
It’s crazy to look at how evolved 😮 corporate America stepped in … is like blood in the water to a shark – money
Nothing in life is free – or death
You really need to shop the funeral homes for best price – but also make sure is good care!! Meet them, make sure you like them!!
During Covid when we could not have services and the industry changed for a minute … it was just the simplest of goodbyes 😔 …alot is for closure to the ones who are left behind and the dignity of the person. The way we send off our loved ones – there are sooo many traditions!!
When you can’t have those – people have another devastation… is their final act of love for person who pass – it was very hard cause broke peoples hearts again
It can be devastating and sad… it can be beautiful and touching … it can be interesting or anything actually – is many ways it can be.
We try to be a comfort and help someone through loss. I try to stress how important it is to shop around funeral homes for pricing and also the specific care you want – we all have specialties
We can do anything but mine specializes hugely in Catholic and Greek Orthodox (because of the population around my funeral home) – my funeral home is also the funeral home for a local hospitals infants – so we see many babies and things – we give a flat cheap rate for infants or fetal deaths.
I have another who specializes in Jewish funerals – or Muslim … the ones that have to go really fast due to religious specifications
And my other one specializes in Asian funerals – a lot of Chinese funerals
That is my 3 … but there are 9 funeral homes in my local network that all have specialties
We can all handle whatever comes to us – we just specialize in what comes to us the most at that particular home.
And you do not have to be religious for us to do whatever way you wish.
Make sure you like the people helping you… you gonna be with them through grief and that is a lasting memory – you want to make sure you are in comforting hands and with people who know your traditions and what you want.
Even though my specialty is not Jewish or Muslim – we are familiar and we would reach out and pull in my Jewish or Muslim team – because we have connections with every religion… we also have the washing rooms they will need for their rituals- we have all the supplies for anything
When they have Catholic or Greek Orthodox at another funeral home – they call us because we are the experts and we have those connections
I have one that is so amazing with Greek Orthodox – I call her my Greek Goddess because she is THAT good and has such a tight connection in Greek community. When the parishioners ask their church who to use – they say us ❤️
And then we have tons of Catholic because high population of Italians in the area of the funeral home – we have many very beloved families
Many have used my funeral home since turn of century – it has moved around locations but we have handled many families from their great grandparents to themselves – some families will swear by us because of that.
Back in the day they used to live right in the funeral home – you may see some private family owned ones still do that… and on occasion in the winter with our storms – I have been known to stay over night lol 😮✌️ some have little apartments lol
You have to help someone pass. So we just do our best.
** as with anything there can be corruption, obviously even in 2022 (look how world is) … so again – shop your funeral homes … you have every right to know them, ask questions – they taking care of final goodbye of your loved one!! You want to feel comforted and also secure!
It is not us who set the prices – that is corporation not us.
If you are a United States veteran we can get you honors and a flag 🇺🇸- we do that alot
We also do a lot of ship in’s and ship outs all over the world – we have to deal with many consulates (😑) every single document must be translated and correct – ugh we just pay a lawyer to do that!! It’s very involved.
It takes orchestrated team. Sometimes like I say… it can be like a symphony. Sometimes it’s insane but sometimes it’s really awesome!
But that is my world in those videos
Every day my world is death, hospitals, regulations etc
When you are on this side – you have empathy – maybe because you know the pain of loss?
We all have stories as to what drew us to this profession!! 😮
And someone has to do it. That’s how we do it in the United States 🇺🇸 … each state has own laws and regulations. But that is closest to my world.