Just a lot of thoughts

Hmm – I have lots of thoughts this evening.

So let me start with work… today someone lost a loved one and was calling funeral homes for pricing. (This is a normal thing they are shopping for lowest price) there is obviously no preneed.

So I walked through everything with them and then gave them our price for a direct cremation – no services – just the cremation and everything that goes with that… transportation, permits, death certificate, the actual cremation etc – plus urn ⚱️

We are expensive in the area – but he said other funeral home gave them higher price

They are far away. I have a funeral home near them with even cheaper price and it’s one of mine so I give them their info.

As I am speaking and explaining things he suddenly stops me and says…

“You know, I just have to say… out of all the people in your business you have been the most calming and most helpful we have experienced – so I want to say thank you”

❤️ that was really sweet to say!! 😊 ❤️

They had told me one funeral home told them if they can get their loved one TO them they would help and then added “good luck” 😮😮😮 …I gasped when they told me that!!! How do you say that to a family??!!! What the hell?

I told them if you need anything else you call me back.

And that is how you do service 💋✌️

Because they are going to speak of that to others – and then guess where the business comes from … and a big majority of our business comes from our reputation of catering and caring…

We have families that won’t use anyone else BUT us… because we are THAT good 😘✌️

But it was really sweet to have someone acknowledge that after I handled them. ❤️

Work was busy… from the minute I step in – it’s on… and I have 2 services tmrw – so tmrw will be insane!!

And when I say services – it is not what you think. It is covid restricted services – so if is viewing is 2 at a time

And we have held services outside but they are not allowing us to do that anymore

We also will set up for a funeral but we will not go in the church if family wants a church service

If the church is willing to do so then fine – it can be on the church them – my people will be waiting outside. We are not taking chances

We just had a death of one of us… they caught covid – was one of our cemetery coordinators – young guy.

So we just got locked down even more 🤨 while the governor is lifting stay at home orders

You gonna lift this shit… and my shit gonna go off!!! 🤨

We are almost in spring – we are almost vaccinating… we almost there

Not yet!! It’s still dangerous!!

Anyway. So that was today. If you wanna tell me covid is no big deal? When you lose someone, you come tell me that.

Then … My friends do not like me out in the country… they also do not like that I do not date… they think I need someone and they think I need to come back to civilization lol

They just don’t understand so whatever – they don’t have to.

I stay away from civilization because I really love the peace of coming home to the country and escaping all the crazy ❤️ it’s so peaceful out here ❤️ and it’s soo beautiful too … there are sucky things like fires and power losses lol – but I am addicted to the peace ❤️ I just want it ❤️

And with dating they try everything to get me to date …

First of all… I am not them. And I don’t want someone because I need anything – I only want to want – that’s it.

And I am fine doing by myself right now, and is good for the moment – is good for me.

Also… I am soft – or so I claim ✌️

I am soft… but if you asked water heater guy – he would NOT tell you I am soft lol 😄✌️

On some things yes – I will stand up.

And then… with dating – I just always try to avoid lol ✌️ … I am fine for right now. I really don’t understand what the big deal is.

But I guess in their defense – I did go severely silent and they had to fight to hold on to me… cause I wanted to push everyone away at that time. I just wanted no one near me.

But I had been through hell with my ex, and then my families deaths and my cancer … so when cancer finished – I just wanted everyone away from me.

It wasn’t because I was depressed – I was sad with everything yes… but I still loved life and still cherished life – I just needed to not be near anyone – I really needed peace to heal for myself.

I was tired of doctors and hospitals and deaths and things!! I didn’t want to be touched or poked or anything – my ex was stalking and causing me problems and I just wanted to be left alone, and hide away.

One day just fell off the face of the earth. No trace – expect my girls who keep trying even when I said no.

They would not allow me to cut off – they kept at me and then would say things like “we don’t want you cutting your wrists or anything”

They knew what I had been through – but I was never like that… I just needed peace from everything for a moment

But I do see what it looked like to everyone else. They knew how I was and they saw all the trauma… and then I went silent, so I can see their concern. ❤️

So anyway… I think they just would feel better if I did have someone? But that’s just not where I am right now… of course you never know what can happen… but I don’t search

Before … I knew everyone. I was well known in the community because I had been with the police for a long time…

And then at the golf course I knew everyone too… and when I would walk in the door – they would say my name the same way they would say “Norm” on the sitcom Cheers ❤️ (but I would have the entire clubhouse doing that ❤️)


And I was just bubbly and knew everyone – then everything happened and I went silent

Now I just love the peace – when I first came here … someone said to me – be careful – peace can be dangerous … I did not understand because peace sounds amazing to me!!

But I guess I understand now, because peace is dangerous in the way… that you fall in love with it, and then it’s hard to come back after having been spoiled by peace ✌️❤️😘

I have been here now since August of 2019

So I am coming up on 2 years… lol I didn’t realize so much time went by 😮

Ok no wonder they on my case, but they are always on my case! From day one they didn’t want me coming out here and being alone lol

I chose that.

For me … not for them.

I am loyal to them for standing by me and not letting go ❤️

They just annoy me with the dating thing lol

And then I’m talking to them tonight and at the end of the convo one says …

If you start dating anyone you have to tell us. 🤨

They don’t hear me lol whatever

I still love them ❤️ and I still don’t listen 💋✌️

I will do the things that I feel are right for my own self. I don’t have anyone telling me anything ❤️ I make my own choices – so far they going ok


If I do come across someone who is worth it to me – I will cross that bridge then. ✌️

Anyway… I have a lot on my mind with things … all my things!!



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      1. Ohhhh yes!! I hope you had a wonderful Candlemas!!

        Well according to our Ground Hog 🤨… evidentially there is 6 more weeks of winter 🤨 lol

        I like yours better – let’s go with yours lol ❤️✌️

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      2. 😄😄😄 that is funny – both your tradition and my tradition say more winter

        Yes hope does pass quickly OR our traditions be wrong lol … I would like if they were wrong lol ✌️

        Stay well and safe to you too ❤️✌️

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  1. Aww. Business or not, it is always nice to receive someone else’s genuine sympathy when you have lost a loved one. Thank you for that piece of comfort to them at the most difficult of times.

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    1. Of course, I can feel their pain so is very easy for me to relate to them and their losses ❤️✌️ the pain I have aids me with how I can sympathize

      And even today – I had one family who was giving my arranger a hard time – but my arranger wasn’t avail… it was me… so they got me

      This family is upset with covid restrictions – they are very upset with it – and I get that … it is heartbreaking to know someone is hurting and in pain and have to tell them sorry we have restrictions.

      Anyway… when I first went out to them they were on defense – but I have a calmness and then by end of convo they laughing with me and chatting.

      It helped that I related to them with something – families hurt because of the loss – and I am very familiar with stages of grief and what they go through

      Plus it is my job to sympathize and connect.

      Someone wrote us a review yesterday… a really really good one… only 🤨… my name is “Trisha”… but because my actual name is PAtricia 🤨… sometimes people take liberty to call me whatever nickname they decide … and this one called me “Pat” 😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝

      Yuck!!! And everyone was like who’s Pat 🤨😝 … I was like “that is me” 🤨

      And then I have to explain there is so many nicknames and if they find out my name is Patricia – immediately they give me nickname of their choosing instead of the one I actually use lol 🤨

      Trisha – not Pat!!!!!! Lol

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      1. I was named after my mother ❤️

        Her name is also Patricia ❤️

        But she goes by “Pat”… Pat reminds me of a SNL character from the 80’s lol … so I don’t want that name lol

        But on my mom, is beautiful ❤️ Plus I don’t call her Pat… I still call her mom ❤️

        They named me after her and then also it’s a name Irish use ALOT!! 🤨😄✌️

        It’s just very old sounding to me… is a name from centuries ago

        And because I am Irish they thought the nickname Patty would be adorable with my Irish last name 🤨 … for them may have been adorable – for me … I have heard every Irish joke humanly possibly 🤨😄✌️

        My family still calls me Patty… I can not shake that with them.

        I went to Trisha when I started Junior high. Trisha is much better ❤️✌️… is more modern and not really a nationality ❤️

        Not that I don’t love Irish – I do. But I just don’t wanna be Irish encompassing lol

        I have reddish type hair – freckles galore 🤨… and then Irish names lol – I could not be more Irish 🤨

        I have other things too but that Irish just takes over!! Lol

        I have a VERY Irish maiden name!! Think of what Irish name matched with Patty would cause Irish jokes – that is my maiden last name lol

        I am going back to that Irish last name after divorce ❤️

        Thank you for saying though … Patricia just has soooooooooo many different nicknames lol

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      2. “I have reddish type hair – freckles galore 🤨… and then Irish names lol – I could not be more Irish” 🤨
        OK, first of all, Patty does not suit you, so I am with you on that one. However, I have ALWAYS been a sucker for freckles and redheads. Whenever my family watches a movie and there happens to be a redhead, I go on and on about how I think redheads are the most attractive of women. 🙂 Haha, it’s just one of those fetishes for me and something I notice whenever presented.

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      3. Awww that was very sweet to say ❤️ thank you ❤️

        My skin does not like the sun very much lol … or at all lol – I can burn in 10 minutes … and then there is a whole peeling thing 😝

        So I don’t really like that part lol

        I don’t mind the freckles too much … they darken in the sun

        They sometimes bring attention because I have a lot.

        I used to joke that before we were born the baby angel had a bucket of freckles and was slowly handing them out … and accidentally gave me too many lol

        But by the time my sister (who tans and has very few freckles lol) was born they had run out of freckles lol – so she didn’t get very many lol

        I used to say that anyway lol

        That was a really sweet comment – thank you ❤️


      4. Nice angel story there, works for me!
        Jokes aside, if someone has freckles, I will look twice, or steal more looks. I love them! something about them makes a face delicately soft and cute. The red hair is just straight sexy!!

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  2. Yeah… people who’ve never had to “shut down” for self preservation don’t understand when others do.

    I’m glad someone thought to comment on how good you are at your job! I try to do that kind of thing on a regular basis – so often, people only hear complaints.

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    1. ❤️ that was a very sweet way to put it ❤️

      Yeah they do that because my 2 arrangers are really awesome and caring … very gentle

      And then me, I can relate instantly to a loss. Plus for some reason people are all sweet nice and kind with me – but with my arrangers they are harsher

      Because I just get to be soft- but they deal with the things we offer and can do, as well as the money and when money is involved is sometimes difficult

      I don’t tell them no, but my arrangers do.

      People are pretty good with giving us good reviews – but that is partly because of our service and then also partly because they have been grieving – and when you are in moments of your life that are traumatic for you… sometimes that hand that helps you along means more than normal… it hurts so we try to not have it hurt SO bad. ❤️


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