So … he is still batting 1000 with his thoughtfulness and caring – and do you remember me speaking of wanting a particular thing ? I still want -what it is I want … it can not be bought with money.
I want one thing.
I do think he actually has the capability to do that. Absolutely! I see that he could do that.
Ok so having said that…
I am a whirlwind – remember that… I just need you not to fall in love hook line and sinker immediately – I need time to come to that. Go slow
None of y’all go slow 😮 why you not go slow?
How do I make you go slow? I have no idea 🤷♀️
Is not that I’m not impressed with his care towards me … he’s very caring – I just need him to go slow with falling completely in love
Why do none of you do that?
Why you so fast to be in love ? Do you not want to make last?
There is no rush – take time – know who I am… and let me know you.
Just get to know me… stop falling in love so fast
https://youtu.be/O-aavAlSYgc?si=KVnAJNvP5sg82aMr
Meant to be or not… I will take your hand if you go slow
But I need slow
He’s in love already
Ok
Now how I handle that?
I be completely honest – and I already say all my issues – I say what happens
Do you think I desire love so quickly? Because I am a woman or something?
No … I desire to know and fall in love with someone … give me a chance to fall in love with you … just be awesome and caring and human and present – let me know you are interested and want to be there – and also be able to handle the one thing I want – take your time – what is the rush ?
https://youtu.be/hqXaJqqp2SI?si=X153zKP9o_8wXV1x
I know he is cautious to say and do things right and be the one for me
But you have to let me drop guard and fall in love before you do – work your magic first!
https://youtu.be/tt4cR9szMS8?si=A1YLBPn1iT9FwRIA
I do like that he could offer the one thing I want – that part is one that draws my attention big time. I really want that one thing
So I know he can do that, and he is so thoughtful and kind … and does put me at ease mostly – but I still don’t know him
You can be caring and thoughtful and be able to handle the one thing I want and just take it slow… make me fall in love with you first.
Don’t fall in love with me first because that always happens … just relax – take it slow
Make ME want it
You can not rush with me cause then I get weird – don’t make me weird – don’t make me question
https://youtu.be/loHOhxsglKI?si=ClcVZxOiDjNnopf2
I already tell him what happens – I specifically said go slow and that most fall in love really quick – so he knows it’s a thing.
But then it happens – always 😩
Not that I don’t love love ❤️ and not that I am not appreciating how he is – I do appreciate that very much!
But he’s very in love already – he is ready to be all in and sex has not even entered the picture – so it’s not sex … unless for a man taking time drives you nuts or something? Chill – there are plenty of other girls for that
And again – I appreciate who he is very much, and everything he does and says – he does it right with the one exception of falling in love too fast
He is completely smitten and all in
I just need time to come to that
Step slowly
https://youtu.be/UcfbwMFvRb0?si=qFc6vAkpOqcahwOW
I still like him a lot … but just be chill – I love that he thinks of me… I love that and that’s fine ❤️ appreciate very much
And then there is the draw of what I want …
He just has to play his cards right and he’s got it
But he’s so in love already
https://youtu.be/p47fEXGabaY?si=b0r027TWr4028WXe
Yes – I make you fall – can you handle it without losing it?
I thought would get better as I age – but it doesn’t 😮😮
Just give me time – this is why you need to know me
Step careful – let me know you – work your magic – get me hooked so that I can’t imagine life without you – remember I don’t need – only want – you have to make me want by letting me know you
I am different than normal people that would date
https://youtu.be/8tI1_KlO6xI?si=GB7YH0CLAlDUmDlM
You will get caught up in my whirlwind so … I don’t know how to make go slow with me?? 😩
Why is this a thing?
He’s got it – he just needs to let me have time – otherwise he’s totally got it!!
So I dunno – I am thinking
How important to me is time over what I want ? Ahhhh!!!
I know he can give me the one thing I want – but at same time – I need time …slowly
I really do need time – just give me a little time – that’s all – I can’t do fast like everyone else – I’m weird like that – I just need time
So I dunno 🤷♀️
Learning Life 
That Elvis Presley song, “Falling in love with you” will always be famous. It is timeless I believe. The voice, the tone in which he sang it, and the topic as well. Evergreen classic.
Also you added the song by the Coutours, Do you love me. Before opening this post, I just listened to it on a music blog by fellow bloggers. 😍 its a great coincidence that great songs get love equally no matter from whom it is.
Also about the situation…you know that life is a flow. It should naturally happen by itself.
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Agree whole heartedly with Elvis’s song 🎶… that is the perfect description for it … it is an evergreen classic song 🎵 ❤️ some songs stand the test of time 😘
Yes, Do you love me? Is also a classic great and beloved song 🎶 I don’t think anyone could recreate the greatness with this song the way The Contours did it ❤️👏 … In fact I’m pretty sure this song is so classic you can not touch it or attempt remake
Yes I agree completely – life is a flow…
But … what is natural for some might not be natural for others ? Which is why taking time to actually see and know love and connection is sooooo important!
Anyone can get whirlwinded with love – is an emotion that makes humans happy and euphoric
I have great love within myself … but I do need to go slow
It will overwhelm me if too fast. Going too fast will make me back up 😮
I need to be able to see and fall that way myself and that just takes time. I’m guarded and went through a lot – so I need someone to hear me on that
And yes love can be healing ❤️🩹 once you let go and let it in…
But that is why I need time… I don’t want to love without time… my healing is not based on if I am loved or not…
I have great love that surrounds me everyday in my life … so I am not one of those who seeks fast love
I’m willing to be open to love, but I do need slow 🤷♀️
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Friends first lovers second – that’s the secret – tell him, you want him as a friend first – that you need to get to know each other as friends first. He said l think that perhaps he should have known you at another time or something of that nature before – pre-life relationship and so on – so work on that – enjoy each otheras friends first ONLY.
It is an art form to fall in love slowly and not everyone has that in today’s fast paced world.
Wooing periods need to be longer, old fashioned dating, courting, sex needs to be the very last thing for as long as you both can hold off, be the perfect lady and he is the perfect gentleman.
Are you after a fairytale romance or that’s how you want things to be, you must stress this to him, to be fair to him.
Falling in love slowly means different things to different folks – for me, l want to know a person thoroughly and more so as l have aged – gone are the days when l could smile and wink and have the woman in bed, nevermind the fact that these days whilst not in an active relationship, l am in a companionship with someone l love and so am no longer bothered.
Don’t get me wrong, l miss sex and l haven’t had sex for a long time and now feel l may never see it again, l have always had a very high libido, but l am in a relationship/companionship and l don’t believe in adultery, so occupy myself with business and other passions, but for someone who wants to enjoy a person and has been hurt and has experienced some bruntness in relationships, the need to go slower is very important. When love and sex fade, friendship must remain, so l think the answer to falling slowly in love, is to become very much loved friends first.
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Yes… I’m fine with getting to know someone and enjoying who they are and life in general …
No he did not know me in another time … but there are moments sometimes when you feel a ripple with someone and know they are somehow supposed to be in your life? You just don’t know in what way?
I know the ripple he speaks of. Just a quick ripple when you meet someone initially … you know they are supposed to be in life for some reason 🤷♀️
Yes let me trust and let down guard before just throwing caution to the wind
I did come out of a very trauma ridden marriage and many medical things, as well as much loss of those I loved deeply …
So to me, to go slow is needed – I am shell shocked still
Not many have experience with these things or how things like that can effect a person
I’m open but slowly – like a flower … I need sun and also time to open 🌹
It’s not that I want a fairytale. I just want real
I do have great incredible love all around me … so is hmm 🤔 …when it comes to falling in love I want to take my time… if you coming into my world then yes I need time
I will blind you with love so that’s a thing 🤷♀️
I have a big heart filled with love and I am already surrounded by love … I have no rush to fall in love … I want it to just be relaxed and organic – it will fall in place when time is right
And regarding sex … I also have not had in very long time because that is a gift 🎁… so when do fall in love you have a gift to give – something special for someone who is special to you … and an ultimate love
I can not do sex without emotions involved – look at my work and how I am there? I do emotions … I am very heavily an emotional person – I know emotions and work with them every day
I am not same as rest of world – from 100 years ago lol 😘✌️
Must make connection first and must let guard down – if a person goes to fast I back up… just chill and I be ok 👍
Give me time to let guard down with those things
Yes friends – agree cause I would like that in a relationship so is not just attraction and shallow
But I do like the courting – just slow – there is no rush
My bottom line is I have to be able to drop the guard and I can’t do that when goes too fast – it overwhelms and then my caution goes up 😮
So I say slow – but that seems easier to be said than done 😮
Ok I have to go … but you make good points 😘 I can’t help but to go slow and no one understands that or stops to think about it? And then I also think people sometimes are desperate for a great love and think they find it without actually knowing that. Todays world is very fast for me
Ok really have to run -bye 👋 😘❤️
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When l mentioned fairytale, that wasn’t what l meant to write, l meant – real, but old fashioned and many see that as a fairytale – over here they joke about cottage and white picket fencing as the fairytale and what they mean is they want to take things slower than the norm and step back an age or two 🙂
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Lol … I have so much love around me anyways… and people I love whole heartedly
So I am not missing love – I have so much in my life always … I don’t search for love because I already have
So if someone wants to come in my life – I need them to be slow because otherwise I can’t handle if it disrupts my life
But I think about a lot because death takes my life while I am alive … so 🤷♀️
But I need someone who can understand and allow me to let guard down and slowly step in
I am very careful with who comes in my life – and I’m gonna need them to be secure with who I am
I am secure with my own self and if someone wants to come into my life, then I have to know them so I am aware I can let guard down
When they fall in love after 2 or 3 dates ugh 😩 I can not handle
I feel like when rush it … why?? Motive??? What do want? State your purpose
What is there you don’t want me to see or what scares you to take the time ?
Maybe take the time to get to know me and not fall in love with whatever it is that makes them fall so fast
Be happy and just get to know me. Have your life and and don’t engulf me right away
Later when I have gotten to know someone it would be easier
Plus I can not burn candle 🕯️ at both ends – I need down time and peace and if knew me could read that
But none take the time it’s always fast and I can’t – it’s too overwhelming
It is 2023 – I don’t know if there are fairytales like what you speak in 2023
So I don’t care about a fairytale – I want one important thing … but I do have people who give that to me already ❤️
I want to know someone and take that slowly … I also want them to know me… I do not want to drop my guard so fast
I don’t want another satan, I don’t want to be manipulated or hurt, I want to be understood first
So that’s kind of a synopsis of things 🤷♀️
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