Opposites

I have this one girlfriend who is 360 from me… as in, complete opposite in every possible way.

Her daughter had some issues – kids picked on her badly… and she was shy and quiet – sweet little girl…

The school called me one day and asked if I would be ok if they pair this girl up with my daughter?

My daughter knows everyone, and everyone knows and loves her, she’s funny and has a good heart – friendly… good grades … good girl… so I said sure and they became friends

Her daughter had some emotional issues because of all the teasing and bullying she was experiencing from the other kids. She was a cutter?

Do you know what that is? It’s when you physically harm yourself to take away the emotional pain… (I had to have these talks with my daughter because I want her aware of what’s around her – definitely do not want to shelter – only guide and I believe knowledge and communication are power)

Anyway… my daughter saved her life and brought sunshine to her. The other little girl is no longer sad and no longer picked on.

The mom is forever grateful… so we met…

She’s so 360 of me, I did not know if I could handle having her in my life??

So at first I kept a massive distance – just friendly… and she kept trying to be my friend… every time I would pull back, she’d come closer 😮

Finally I just told her… look I’m kinda really quiet and private – not sure I can handle your style? I’ve been through a lot – I was really sad at that time… I had just been diagnosed with cancer, lost my father and grandfather and my mother had Alzheimer’s so… I was really not in a good place.

I think she saw that?

So I kinda pushed her away… but she would keep making sure I was ok or did I need anything. I always said I was fine or didn’t need anything …

But then she started drop off little things that would make me smile? I would come home and it would be on my front door step… it was just sweet that someone would go out of their way to make someone smile like that? Especially if you knew they were hurting

Just like … if I told her about something I loved – it would be something referencing that. I said I loved Cadbury chocolate, and she got me a whole basket… She was listening and making effort just to be my friend.

So… I let my guard down … not totally right away… but I was tired and this woman held her hand out to me kinda? I took her hand

She was there when I open my eyes out of surgery the first time… she sat with me in the recovery room… got me anything I wanted … stayed until I was released and then checked on me constantly, helping me with the tubes and the bandages …

So yeah I let the guard down… she has quirks like I do but different … because we are different – just saying we quirky lol

Anyway… I don’t always agree with her… she can be really harsh with the stone cold reality stuff 😳

Sometimes that’s a lot for me.

Sometimes we clash lol

Like sometimes I can’t handle her cold hard reality cause it comes hard core!! Ok … let’s not overwhelm me with impending doom – I know all about that lol

Or sometimes we can’t handle each other … because we are so different we can clash here and there … we are both strong willed in our own ways lol … so neither will back down lol…

At which point it’s useless to continue lol … so I will usually stop the convo or discussion – ok you think your way, I’ll think mine

She has strength which I admire… there are certain things about her I admire very much…

And same goes for her towards me… I am soft … she doesn’t have that softness … I am also a people magnet and she loves attention – I however hate it lol

We are always there for each other even with the differences … we put effort into each other because each offers something the other doesn’t have or is missing? Something we can learn from?

And she is a really amazing friend… we are there for each other emotionally when those moments come up. We have helped each other through a lot

We bring a view to each other’s lives that we are unfamiliar with? But that also helps.

She’s kinda held my hand through a lot?

So… essentially … my daughter saved her daughter – and she saved me. ❤️

Just because their are differences or issues doesn’t mean you can’t learn together.

Friendship is about wanting to be in that persons life and enjoying who that person is – as is.

That’s another thing… we accept each other as is. She has her things – I have mine. Neither of us judge the other.

We may give opinion on whatever lol … and you can take it however you want – just a different view or perspective that either her or I didn’t think of.

I talked to her today ❤️🥰❤️ I consider her family. She has a devotion like that…

Today though she was very um ?? Harsh with the virus reality which I currently avoid lol … I know it’s bad, I know it’s gonna continue to be bad… for a long time, I also know it’s gonna be different – things are gonna change yet again!

But she was ranting … I listen to what I can but then I will zone out if too much lol

Then we switch subjects… and we talk about the kids …

Our parenting styles are different … so we don’t always agree there either lol… I am very active in my kids lives and schooling … and she is not and she makes the kids responsible for their own selves – which is good… they know their own grades are their responsibility and they better not mess that up – they don’t

I make my daughter responsible for her grades but at the same time I am involved with the teachers and what’s going on in her life. I check the school site where I can see everything – every assignment… every note – everything. I still feel she needs guidance ? Here comes high school which is emotionally charged – I wanna make sure she’s stable and on top of it.

My girlfriend wants to prepare her kids to be adult and I do too – we just have different ways … we learn things from each other

We just have different perspectives – but allow each other to be who we are?

Plus I can totally make her laugh … when I first met her – right away she said, “I’m not a funny person, I don’t like comedy” lol … uh ok? Lol

Well “meet me” lol … things she never would have found funny … I now make her see funny

Is nice to hear her laugh or see her smile.

Anyway, always enjoy our talks – today was a little doom and gloom

But we still ended laughing so it works. ✌️ we make each other feel better ❤️🥰❤️