I had a bad call today… but it was sad… the family had no money… we aren’t able to do for “free” …
So your option would be to sign the body over to the county or the state for cremation/burial… you MIGHT be able to get the ashes for a fee depending on state or county regulations costs and rules.
Bleh. I didn’t like that call- it was out of my hands. I had to get my boss involved and we offered bare minimum and they couldn’t do that 😔
That was hard. You feel bad.
I feel heavy now.
I have friends who whenever I mention funerals or whatever – they say “what do I care, I’ll be dead”
But what you don’t think of is your family or people you leave behind who are distraught and upset … you might not care – but it is everything to them. They love you and just lost you so they are grief stricken and trying to handle.
No one really thinks to plan for death, but is a good idea to avoid a situation like what I had today 😔
And some of these families are just too poor in general, on a day to day basis… so it’s just hard – it’s heartbreaking… I hate to see that pain. I want to take it away.
Anyway… I feel all heavy now… I’ll be back
Learning Life 
Disconnect. Just breath in, breath out, find acceptance and focus on your own life and the things that make it happy. How do your children do?
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Yeah I do… but I hate to see that… I feel empathy towards that family. Both for the loss and the money situation. Kinda stinks. Wish could have helped them… but it is not my call and my hands are tied on it. And doesn’t make any easier with situation (lock down) we in currently
Otherwise I stay happy for the most part – just very empathetic with this stuff.
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So true. We seldom talk about how to take care of the last business. For my last trip, I had to buy travel insurance before I go, and I had to explain to my family, if something happen to me on the trip, they will ship my body back, yada, yada. It was a sober moment.
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I had to do a healthcare directive when I had my cancer surgeries and they really get into what you want with life or death and who would have control if anything were to happen etc etc… that was a little scary and unnerving lol
But I still don’t have anything planned – eventually I plan to (back burner for now) I suppose that’s just how it is
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When I ran my errand yesterday, some guy was walking between stopped (and moving) cars with a sign that he was collecting for a funeral. I couldn’t decide if it was legit… not that I could give anyway.
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Yeah be careful – not that I don’t want to always be helpful and help others … BUT there are a lot of scammers who capitalize on people’s empathy during times like these – and people be desperate and out of work. You have no way of knowing if that is truly legit or not.
Maybe “go fund me” or something be better – people can better investigate somewhat
But even still – I used to be with the police too so they have it drilled in my head to be careful … and while I was with them – you have no idea how many people get scammed!!! A lot of elderly get scammed because they are so trusting!!
Be careful – have empathy when able but also be on guard.
I have seen people on streets like that (not recently) asking for funeral money … but is usually for some locally publicized case
Just be careful – be careful – be careful!!! I wouldn’t have given any money either in that situation
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Traffic was moving before he got to me and I had no cash anyway. Usually, if I see something like there are groups of people on every side of the intersection. This was just 1 guy. I didn’t have time to see more than the word “funeral”. Could have been legit but I don’t usually give to people like that cause I don’t want to encourage their walking between lanes like they do (too strong of a chance of getting themselves killed).
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