Happy Motherโs Day again to all… I havenโt talked to my own mother yet – I have to catch her ๐คจ lol
She is in a memory care facility that is closed to outside. Is assisted living.
She has her own little apartment, and about 3 or 4 really close girlfriends she has connected with. โค๏ธ
She has a walker… she fell recently… so now she has a walker all the time
They also never run out of conversation lol… is new every time lol … the same stories are repeated several times lol
Sheโs oblivious to whatโs going on … she just forgets … Iโm almost a little jealous. How lucky to not fear, Iโm glad she doesnโt realize.
Anyway… like I said… I gotta catch her ๐คจ
She waddles all over the place with her friends, has no cell phone, only her little apartment phone ๐คจ so if sheโs out – you canโt get her ๐คจ
I tease her about that all the time… Oh my god! How I not be able to reach you??? She giggles and teases back, what am I supposed to do? …stay in my apartment? ๐คจ๐ she is happy โค๏ธ
I will catch her at some point
Itโs funny… when they were my parents … they were so umm?? straight-lined? Traditional, reserved… one was dorky the other was a nerd lol
Then my dad retired ๐คจ… suddenly they were like 2 unsupervised teenagers ๐คจ๐ what the hell? Who took my parents? Who are you imposters?? ๐๐โค๏ธ
They had an amazing 4 years before my dad passed. Went crazy traveling to anywhere they desired and did alot of their bucket list stuff.
When he died we learned she had Alzheimerโs … they hid it from us ๐คจ
They were traditional… and my dad went through cancer for over 20 years before he beat it. My mother stood by his side completely through everything – literally. Just as he took care of and provided for her, she did for him as well.
My mom was always… joking laughing … loving … kinda goofy… maybe flaky sometimes lol โค๏ธ so that was always normal. (She was like an older model of me ๐ณ)
Sometimes she would be saying something and forget, and my dad would jump in convo and finish for her … but they always did that.
Neither family or friends noticed, until my dad passed – and then my mom was front and center. ๐ฎ Then it was all bad! Without my dad, yeah it was bad.
We believe they hid from everyone because they didnโt want to be taken apart? โน๏ธ
My dads death was really traumatic for her… she lost her everything. It crushed her ๐ข
So anyway… we stepped in, had her see a doctor, and then we took control. She could no longer be alone.
We found a really nice place for her and she is happy โค๏ธ
In her mind, she lives in Pleasantville
She is/was an incredible mother… I think I had the best? Lol โ๏ธโค๏ธ
When I am able to catch her ๐คจ … we reminisce a lot … those convos are hilarious and she remembers. Those conversations are awesome.
She will have moments of zoning out ?? Or make statements like my dad is still alive… those are hard.
But sheโs still hilarious, remembers memories โค๏ธ
I still have her โค๏ธ I can still say I love you and hear her say it back!!
Here is something funny… I have a sister – we sound the same on the phone … you can not tell us apart over the phone… so my mom always used to get us mixed up…
She no longer mixes us up… she knows the voices now – odd little Alzheimerโs thing lol
She is/was a really great mom โค๏ธ I wish I could keep her forever
Anyway… my boys are coming over today just to be with us โค๏ธ yay!! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
Having a nice Motherโs Day so far โค๏ธ just have to catch my own mom ๐คจ๐ โค๏ธโ๏ธ
Mom wish granny by my side. i am also your son..
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Happy Mother’s Day to all of you.
You reminded me of a rare fond memory of my mother. I didn’t witness it but heard about it later: Around the time my younger sister turned 21, my mother got a job with a lot of younger coworkers (who adored her… she was a diff person with them). They took her drinking one night and she came home drunk and unable to get her key in the front door. My sister threw the door open and glared at our mom, standing there drunk, as both of them thought, “something is all backward about this.”
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ps: Our mother rarely touched anything but a single glass of wine till my sister turned 21. Then she seemed to make up for lost time.
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Thank you ๐ฅฐ
Lol… thatโs funny … itโs like they become children lol … I am sandwiched ๐คจ๐
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