Partly I cry because while I share a lot that goes on, and I have kinda told my story somewhat… but the details are gruesome and horrific so those I have trouble with. They make me cry, it makes me sensitive
Ok well, this past weekend, I emailed my lawyer and just said I would have to cancel today’s appt because the retainer would be gone after this appointment. So unless he gets another court order to have his fees paid… there was nothing I could do. I would rather he do that than meet with me, so he could still help me.
Right away he message me back and said please keep the appointment – the only way to get answers is to come in.
Ok well whatever – it be gone anyway, so I listened and went in. At this point, ya know, is what is… so ok. I really don’t have a lot of faith or trust in lawyers or court or anything pertaining. I had explained my situation to him, and he still wanted to see me – so ok…
My ex is supposed to be paying a certain amount of support and he is court ordered to – but he does not… he pays a little but not even $1000… he makes ALOT – I do not, not at all.
So… anyway… in the office with this lawyer he ask me… has he ever answered to anything? …cause there is nothing in this file for him to answer anything
I said no. That has never ever been done… only to me, and I had to do back flips with that.
So… because he now has the house in his mothers name, as well as vehicles he has bought… etc etc
He will now have to answer an inquisition of many questions and we will subpoena all bank statements, credit card statements, 401k, all of those types of things, since date of separation… he is going to have to explain and prove everything!!!
Also we are going to attach his wages and that will go retroactive. Meaning his wages will be garnished to back pay everything owed
We will also be submitting a new support request based on the dissolution master?? I dunno thats what he called it – cause he is not paying enough.
So we see … my hopes really aren’t that high because #1… I don’t know that he will answer… this lawyer will go after him if he doesn’t though – I got a good one!!! #2 I dunno – we just see, I still don’t really believe or trust?
And we are going to ask for legal fees as well, but until then he say … even if you can just send $10… I will stay with you , work for you, help you, and make sure you are ok ❤️❤️❤️ so I cried 😢
He doesn’t panic me, I feel at ease, he isn’t mean and doesn’t bully ❤️ and he’s so smart and knows how to handle this!!!!
I don’t just feel like “another case oh well” … he actually is trying to help me ❤️
So that went well… like I said I cried…
As I was leaving…
I don’t know if you remember?? When I first got this lawyer?
The first time I ever called the office… the man who answered… he was kind and listened and then stopped me and said “hang on let me stop you right there and tell you that we are a Christian law firm”
When he had said that?? I didn’t know what he meant???
So I asked … does that mean you won’t take my case? I’m Catholic does that help? Is that ok?? I don’t want to switch or anything 🙏
He laughed and he said “no what I mean is, we actually care about our clients” ❤️ so ya know – when he said that to me, I just… I knew this lawyer was the one I wanted – however it turned out – I knew this was the right choice.
So anyway – I never forgot what he said… and his smiling face was the first face I see usually when I get there. He is always very kind and sweet! I just like him. I feel at ease?
Today when I got there, he was not there. No one was – I had to ring a bell 🛎… and then my lawyer came and brought me back.
I didn’t see that guys smiling face when I got there today. But whatever. I’m just used to seeing him there when I go in, and he’s always so kind.
Anyway… I went in, had the appointment with lawyer, like I told you…
And then I went to leave… when leaving… suddenly he is there… my face was already tear stained, but as I walked into the room – he stood up
And he said, Trisha! Is so good to see you, you look really good…
I smiled and went to say thank you, but before I could say anything he continued speaking …
He said… Trisha! Hi how are you???
I said “Good, was wondering where you were cause you weren’t there when I got here today”
He said “yeah I know, I actually took a lunch today, but I was disappointed and thought I missed you”
I just kinda laughed and said “yeah missed your smile too!”… I do not know him, and he does not know me… it’s just the kindness he always shows – I know I’m just a client – but he is sweet.
And then he kinda started speaking and said… “I kinda know a little bit about your case, and first off I want to say how sorry I am for everything you went through (so that instantly made me tear up) and I just want you to know how amazing you are and you are such a strong woman!”
Ok well yeah that did it and made me tear even more, I smiled and said thank you but I could feel the tears running down my cheeks under that full face mask.
I just smiled and wanted to get out because I knew I was gonna cry with that… and I did. Was hard to make it to the car!
That was really sweet to say … but it does make me cry. Just sensitive ya know.
So… I finally have the help now… however it goes now… I will be content with that.
When I go to see this lawyer – I might cry… but afterwards I feel peace ❤️
The other lawyers – made me feel panic all the time… and bullied… they never took time with me or tried to help… I have never had the peace like I do here… and I have also never had a lawyer actually care before … and actually work and do things to help!! I am impressed ❤️ ok so they aren’t all bad. There are some good ones – like I suppose with everything.
The lawyer has me say a prayer with him after we visit. At first was a little weird – not so much now, I kinda like it . It kinda feels peaceful
And I also remember making the comment here on the blog… this would either make me believe or not… so hmm… I do believe in god. But I’m just severely private with it. That is for me and me alone. I keep to myself with that and I be me… you be you.
But I will say…
I kinda see the warmth of god through this? I dunno so whatever – hard to explain